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What is romantic conflict? How to create page-turning, believable tension in your writing

Another month, and another authors’ Round Robin. This month the topic has been set by author Skye Taylor

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How do you create compelling conflict without using clichés?

I write and edit romance novels, and so in this post I’ve chosen to write specifically about romantic conflict.

Romance novels revolve around the tension between the main characters. I’ve written before about how people look down on the romance genre, but my feeling is a story that is character-driven rather than plot-driven is much harder to write. You have to keep readers glued to the page without any of the plot devices of murder, mayhem, car chases and bombs. The developing relationship provides all of the tension.

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When I watched the film Clueless with my husband (the film is loosely based on Jane Austen’s Emma), he told me he thought ‘nothing happened’ … and I gasped aloud! Everything happens! The film – and the novel – are chock full of conflict! (More on Clueless below.)

When people pick up a romance novel, or watch a romcom, they already know what’s going to happen in the final scenes. What keeps the reader glued to the page is wondering how on earth these characters are going to get their happy ending. And what keeps the characters apart is conflict – something in their past, their beliefs, their goals that makes it absolutely impossible for them to unite, even though they’re made for one another.

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Below are some tips on creating compelling romantic conflict. But first, here’s what conflict isn’t.  

Romantic conflict is not:

Fighting, arguing or disagreeing for the sake of it. I’ve found people who never read romance novels often think this is what they’re all about, until magically the couple fall in love and get their happy ending. Romantic conflict is much deeper than just arguing

Failure to communicate, or a misunderstanding. If the problem can be resolved with a simple conversation, just like in real life readers will be left dissatisfied with the couple – and wanting to knock their heads together!

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Creating believable, compelling romantic conflict

Romantic conflict is something at the heart of the characters’ personalities, characters or their past that makes it seem impossible for the two of them ever to be able to get together.

Romantic conflict is often called ‘internal conflict’ because it’s something inside the character – a character flaw or a reaction to a past experience, or a goal they are committed to – that makes it difficult for her/him to commit to the other person.

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Creating credible romantic conflict is one of the things that, for me, makes romance the most difficult genre to write. If two single people are madly in love and made for one another, what is there these days to prevent them getting together? Of course there’s always being afraid of commitment – but this seems a bit of a cliché.

How do you keep the romantic conflict fresh and engaging?
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Below are some examples of successful romantic conflict, and also some examples of how I’ve tried to create believable conflict in my own novels

Clueless In this film the heroine, Cher, is the only child of a wealthy businessman. When Josh comes to stay with them, he finds her spoilt, vain and entitled, while Cher thinks he’s self-righteous and boring. Of course there’s an element of truth to both these things! But as the story progresses, they come to see each other’s finer qualities of kindness, positivity and generosity. As in the best romances, they each have to change a little to get their happy ending.

You Are Here, by David Nicholls. I finished reading this novel recently, and loved it. Nicholls has called it ‘the best novel he’s ever written’. The heroine, Marnie, is lacking in confidence in relationships, after a previous experience. During a walk in the Lakes, she and the hero, Michael, begin to fall in love. The conflict comes from the fact Michael is getting divorced…and is still in love with his wife.

And by the way, Nicholls avoids clichés by giving this romantic couple jobs people generally feel are done by ‘boring’ people. The hero is a geography teacher, and the heroine a copy editor. (I was particularly delighted about this as an editor myself 😊 )

I’ve summed this story in a line or two, but actually the emotions are much deeper and more complicate than I’ve given them justice. I highly recommend!

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Pride and Prejudice, by Jane Austen. Well, the title says it all in this classic from the mistress of romantic fiction. It’s Darcy’s pride and Lizzie’s prejudice that keep the couple from getting together. They each have to soften before they can get their happy ending.

This is another story, like Clueless, in which ‘nothing happens’. There are balls, visits to the countryside and to stately homes – and yet when I first read this book as a teenager I was absolutely gripped to the page with the drama and conflict.

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Romantic conflict is so key to a story, in my own romantic novels, the very first thing I do is try to find a reason why these two characters can’t be together. This may just start off as a germ of an idea, and it’s not until I’m writing the novel itself that the conflict, the characters and the emotions truly begin to take shape.

After this, I work as hard as I can on giving my hero and heroine a hard time, so that when they finally do get their happy ending, I can give readers have that satisfying ‘ah’ moment.

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In Penny’s Antique Shop of Memories and Treasures, Kurt (or ‘Kurt by name and curt by nature’, as Penny calls him) has decided love is a fool’s game. It never brought his father anything but pain after his mother left for someone else. Kurt’s aim is to marry for ‘sensible’ reasons, and not for true love.

The heroine, Penny, is one of the world’s great romantics. She’s been brought up to feel second best, and is determined that when she marries, it will only be to someone who truly loves her for who she is. So when Kurt, who she’s helplessly in love with, makes his ‘sensible’ suggestion of marriage, she refuses outright.

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In Felicity at the Cross Hotel, the hero, Patrick, has come home to run his family’s hotel in the Lake District, after the death of his father. The last person he plans to fall in love with is Felicity, whose family own a hotel chain and who have their eye on buying him out. Besides, a childhood tragedy means he has no intention of staying long in the Lakes. His dreams lie elsewhere.

As for Felicity, there’s no way she can stay at the Cross Hotel, as she owes her loyalty to her father’s business. How can the two possibly come together with their separate goals?

The path of true love never does run smooth

When I wrote my first novel, I was advised by my editor to concentrate on the romantic conflict and give it as much depth as possible. Now when I’m editing, I find myself giving the same advice.

One suggestion I like is to think of your favourite romance novels or romantic films and think about what it is exactly that’s stopping the couple getting together. How is this resolved? How do they change in order to get their happy ending?

There is lots more that can be said on the subject of romantic conflict than I can fit in this post. One book I’ve found useful is Leigh Michaels’ Writing the Romance Novel: Crafting a Story that Sells, which has an excellent section on this topic.

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I hope you’ve found this month’s topic useful. If you’d like to hear what the other authors in the Round Robin have to say on conflict, please click on the links below!

(The book with hearts image in this post is by Pepitas And Pepitas from Pixabay)

Bob Richhttps://wp.me/p3Xihq-3sY

Belinda Edwards  https://booksbybelinda.com/blog/

Connie Vines http://mizging.blogspot.com/

Sally Odgers https://behindsallysbooksmark2.blogspot.com

AJ Maguire http://ajmaguire.wordpress.com/

Skye Taylor http://www.skye-writer.com/blogging_by_the_sea

10 responses to “What is romantic conflict? How to create page-turning, believable tension in your writing”

  1. Belinda E Edwards Avatar

    That’s a wonderful look at the topic Helena.
    Don’t you just love when people say that they never read romance books because they are … something generalising some opinion they have parroted from something that was said 40 years ago,

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    1. Helena Fairfax Avatar

      I do find it frustrating when people dismiss romantic fiction, Belinda. Or when they ask when I’m going to write ‘something serious’. My novels end with the couple happily together, but they have some serious themes.
      I’ve enjoyed this month’s topic. Thanks so much for dropping in, and for your comment! xx

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  2. A.J. Maguire Avatar

    Romance really is difficult to write. Particularly contemporary. I’ve often tried and failed in this. I always end up with epic fantasy backdrops, so I envy all the authors out there who can manage this.

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    1. Helena Fairfax Avatar

      I agree, it’s very difficult to keep the tension going in a romance. When people dismiss them as ‘easy to read’, I say have a go at writing one. They’re not easy to write!
      Thanks for dropping in, and for your comment x

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  3. Skye-writer Avatar

    Great post. I know, I often pan Hallmark for being repetitive, but it’s a genre that sells and it’s all about the conflict that keeps our hero and heroine from admitting or giving into their mutual attraction. And it’s that push me – pull you that keeps the tension and conflict going. Great examples from books we’ve become familiar with, too.

    Had to chuckle at the hubby’s comment “nothing happened.” When Bridges of Madison County came out Clint Eastwood got panned for not being romantic enough, but I’d already read the book and all the “happening” was in their internal struggles rather than something you could “see.” Like when they gave in to their desire for sleeping together, he followed her up the stairs. Not much action and no dialog, but in the book we see how she felt when his hand covered hers dragging up the bannister. A TON OF CONFLICT going through her head.

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    1. Helena Fairfax Avatar

      Hi Skye,
      I’ve never read the book The Bridges of Madison County. In fact, I didn’t know it was a book until now! I’d be really interested to read it and see how it compares to the film.
      Thanks for setting another interesting topic!

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  4. jameschristie466 Avatar
    jameschristie466

    Just trying to compose a comment…

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  5. jameschristie466 Avatar
    jameschristie466

    I’ll try to explain, as simply as possible, why Juliet and I in “Dear Miss Landau” could never be together despite fate and destiny throwing everything but the kitchen sink at her. It now seems she is the daughter of narcissistic parents, has terribly low self-esteem and seals up her emotions behind a wall which would put the one in China to shame (a friend of hers clarified some of this once), leaving me like that guy in “Knight Rider” who, despite “Dear Miss Landau’s” actual publication, does not exist. She never talks about the whole saga at all, and it is actually possible that “Buffy” fans think it’s all fiction! She’s also self-destructive, and as well as throwing all of “Landau’s” numerous possibilities away, she just did it all over again: making a terrible mess of her new podcast and alienating many fans because of trademark infringement.

    I had come to terms with the fact she’s a mess, but disaster area might now be more accurate…

    I think sometimes the fates try to help people who are particularly self-destructive and vulnerable. But in line with theology, if there is a God He still can’t mess with Man’s free will and (to paraphrase a line from “Terminator 2”, of all things) “it is in people’s nature to destroy themselves.”

    I’m probably the only man left alive who still likes her, no matter what. And I’d say it probably is a tragedy as we will very likely never see each other again.

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    1. Helena Fairfax Avatar

      Hi James, thanks very much for taking the time to compose a reply. One of the reasons readers love romantic fiction is that they know, no matter what the obstacles in the hero and heroine’s way, there is going to be a happy ending. We can rest secure in the knowledge that here, at least, in the pages of a novel, all is going to end well. Of course the reason we love these books is that in real life things so often don’t work out that way. In a romance novel, the hero and heroine eventually recognise their own flaws (pride and prejudice, say), and they change as people. Unfortunately few of us recognise our own flaws, and even when we do, we’re so often incapable of change.
      On a more positive note, I do like to think that the best romance novels – and the best novels in any genre – can teach us a valuable lesson and that there are people who can learn from their mistakes.
      Thank you again for taking the time to reply. It’s a sign of real affection that you can like someone, no matter what.

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      1. jameschristie466 Avatar
        jameschristie466

        She may one day learn, and I suspect fate and destiny are boxing her efficiently into a corner with only one exit, but her ability to wander off in the wrong direction and fall over the nearest available balcony is unparalleled.

        In her unbelievably awful film (“A Place Among the Dead”), she ends up imprisoned in a dark dank room with the words “Starring Juliet Landau” pasted on the far wall either in blood or (a bit more likely) red paint, waiting brutally to be murdered by a vampire while having a massive nervous breakdown.

        Let’s just say this really ain’t what I wanted for her, and it’s like watching a slow motion car crash in “Death Race 2000” at close range.

        There is an escape route for her, but so many of us remain locked inside our own personal hells and refuse to leave them.

        So that’s where we are right now, and probably forever.

        So it goes.

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